Well I’m pissed off with the good thinking, well meaning lefties!
Last night on “The late late show” on RTE showed a recovering drug addict and her path to a “normal” life. The woman criticised the Irish society for not having more facilities for drug addicts to get out of drugs and the lack of counsellors. Well, fuck me, but who forced them to try drugs in the first place? THEY made that choice all by themselves! I made the choice to say NO to drugs every single time I was confronted to them. THEY made the choice to throw away THEIR life, not society! And if their families had gotten off their back sides and actually cared about their offspring’s well-being society wouldn’t have to pick-up the tabs.
What really got on my nerves though is the fact that they receive counselling for something they chose!
Contrast that to my wife and I who last July lost our first born baby boy. We went through hell while the little mite was in the intensive care unit. But even before he was born it was a nightmare. The doctors threw all sorts of hypotheses at us as to why the amniotic fluid was increasing and the baby stopped growing. From brain damage to no diaphragm via all sorts of other possibilities they spared us no punch. And that only continued when he was delivered by C-section 5 weeks before term. He was the most beautiful little boy. And yes he had little muscle tone,but he was reacting to our touch. He was just as ticklish as his daddy. Unfortunately he had a massive brain bleed and on his 13th day with us we had to turn the machines off. We buried him in what will be our final resting place (kind-off scary to think that at 34 I knew where my remains would be). We met the doctors again to hear the results of the post mortem. He had a rare type of myopathy which would ultimately have killed him but what really killed him is the brain bleed. It’s now nearly 8 months since he passed away.
Do you think that we got any counselling? Nope. Despite it being a normal hospital procedure to offer bereaved parents access to a counsellor. Mind you they wouldn’t have been able to change anything so I don’t think that a counsellor would have been of any help to us.
We did not choose to loose our first baby, yet we coped with what we were going through. And we did it without counselling even though we should have been given some! And there we are paying taxes to pay counsellors to help druggies to kick the habit! Fuck that. Since they chose to take drugs in the first place, let them get out of them the way they got into them: on their own! And stop wasting precious resources that could be invested in something way more useful.
Now if there are any people ending up reading this post and got this far: thank you for reading and feel free to leave a comment.
12 March 2007 at 9:32
Oh dear. He was beautiful. You and M’s strength over the past months has been quite incredible.
22 June 2007 at 7:00
Hello
Came across your blog today whilst searching for references to Centronuclear and Myotubular Myopathy.
I was really sorry to read about your baby boy.
My father and I have the Dominant form of Centronuclear Myopathy and I run a website, the Information Point for Centronuclear and Myotubular Myopathy. I try to contact everyone I learn of who is affected by this condition, so that they know there is a source of information and that they are not alone.
Toni
UK
28 April 2008 at 11:04
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